Thursday, October 21, 2010

Youthful romance and a giveaway!

How many of you spent your life from age say, 11 or so, up until you married, giving your heart away to one person after another?  Whether it was someone you just "liked" or someone you were "going out with" or someone you were dating?  I know I did, and I sure do wish I had been wise, even at that young age, to know to guard my heart.  I know a large reason that many of us, including me, gave our hearts away to so many, is because of that God shaped void that we all have apart from Christ, as well as a lack of real connection with our parents.  (for us ladies, that "father wound" that is left by absent or disinterested fathers' is quite significant and leaves an even larger need to know our heavenly Father's love!)

But even for those of us who are doing our best to raise our kids in a God-centered home, giving the love of Christ to our kids, and giving them the love and relationship that they need, our children will still need guidance on how to deal with the feelings that will come as they enter into their teen years.  

That is where the book you see pictured above gives a tremendous amount of help to parents, on how to teach our children about true love.  We can't just tell our kids, they can't date, they can't have boyfriends or girlfriends.  This will only go so far.  We have to inspire them to want something better, something worth waiting for.  And God truly does offer each one of our children something incredibly better than one broken heart after another.  He offers total satisfaction in him, and an eager anticipation of what (and who!) he has planned.

Here is how I wish my adolescent years had gone:

I wish I had spent my time growing in the Lord through reading my Bible and actually paying attention in church, learning to sew as well as doing other handicrafts, cooking and becoming a good cook to be able to serve my family one day, getting involved in things like 4-H,volunteering at nursing homes (more because I did a little), spending time actually enjoying and loving on my younger siblings, gardening, reading good classic books, dreaming about one day being a wife and mother, praying for my future spouse, eagerly looking forward to one day meeting him.  I wish I would have prayed anytime I got a "crush" on someone and asked God to take those feelings away if they weren't from Him, and just enjoyed those years of my life as a single young lady.  And then when God did bring into my life the man he had for me to marry, I wish we would have saved every part of our physical relationship, even the first kiss!, for our wedding day.  Can you imagine how exciting that would be!  How I know that would be worth waiting for!  And that is what I want to instill in my children!  Obeying God's ways isn't a drudgery, it's a blessing!  Once they hit those teen years, I can only give them so many rules, what they are going to need is wisdom to make godly decisions, not because they have to, not because we told them to, but because they want to.

So here is the giveaway.  I found a thrifted copy of this book and it is in like new condition!  To be eligible to win, just comment on this post (and my other posts if you want...  I really love and appreciate comments!) and on Sunday evening, a random generator will choose who wins the book!  Then I will mail it to you!  


Marianna said...

Good post! I would love that book to give me tips for training up my boys in the ways of the Lord. My desire and prayer is for them to be young men of God who wait for everything sexual until their wedding day when they join lives with a strong Christian young woman. I pray they guard their hearts and keep their focus on Christ. Thanks for the giveaway!

Monique said...

I would love a chance to win this. I have an 8 year old daugther and I am already nervous about this time of her life. Thank you for the chance.

Ginny said...

This book does sound great Abby!

Daphne said...

I would like to win this book. It sounds interesting. I don't know how useful it will be since we are planning to arrange the marriage of each of our children when they turn 30, but I might find some helpful information here.

Ramesam said...

Great to read this fantastic but fantasy-like Post! How much one wishes that it stays true for the whole world!!

India where even the first kiss is a taboo until the very first night (planned and fixed on an auspicious night after sacred worship!) until a few years (actually decades) ago, youngsters feel these days it's not being progressive if premarital sxx is not tried like in the USA.

Glad to see the feelings of a pious disciplined and devoted mother from that very USA, the de facto standard for culture!

all the best.